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I
wrote a letter to the "God Squad" of the Buffalo News almost two years
ago. I was puzzled about their either-or approach to the interfaith family.
Did they know about our UU alternative? Below is my letter:
Dear Tom and
Marc,
When you answer questions from people who wonder how to resolve or live
with the needs of their interfaith or multi-faith families, I haven't read a column
where you take note of our Unitarian Universalist approach.
We
are joined together by a common identity built on our shared community, our history
of the growth of religious tolerance and understanding, and our value system based
in our seven principles and six sources of religious understanding. However, no
one historic religious culture and symbol system stands at the center of our shared
spirituality.
Thus, there is space for many forms of religious expression
in our worship. In the "U-U" context, individuals are free to create
their own particular identities. Thus, many of us easily "hyphenate"
our self or family descriptions; that is, we can create mixed identities from
the various streams of tradition that flow into our families. All of us are Unitarian
Universalists but we often add on some more identities: Christian, Jewish, humanist,
Buddhist, pagan, etc.; and sometimes we add more than one. Sincerely,
Timothy
W. Ashton
There was no response to my letter. So I reflect
further without their input.
The God Squad follows the conventional
method of interfaith management. I will call it the "silo method" of
dealing with religious diversity: of course, we talk, we visit, we learn, we appreciate,
but always we keep within our own singular identities, stay in our silos. We wouldn't
want our children to be "confused." Therefore, families must choose
one identity, choose a single participation.
On the other hand, the UU says
to the multi-faith family, figure out what you enjoy and value from whatever tradition
and do those things where possible, do them together.
Why are we
so different in our approach? The UU begins with our common human experience,
not a unique, transcendent revelation.
As human beings, we create religious
activity to give meaning, depth, and direction to our lives. We invent rituals;
we write prayers and stories and poems. We consider our obligations to one another.
We sing and dance, celebrate and reflect.
Thus, at core, all religions
express the basic needs of our humanness. Hence, what we share in common is much
greater than what we imagine is so different.
Tim